Electric Impulse Communications, Inc. Newsletter
A monthly newsletter to transform ordinary leaders to extraordinary: in your company, profession, and industry. Based on coaching, writing, speaking and strategizing by Leslie G.Ungar to give people their own voice, help them identify their competitive edge, and change the world one leader a time. www.electricimpulse.com
This newsletter includes: The Power of Perspectives
- Herbie's Helpful Hint
- ASK LESLIE - Stay On Your Cutting Edge
- Mishmash of Value:
- Live and In Person
- Lessons from CoachSpeak
- Come and Be a Part of Our Community
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I. Herbie's Helpful Hint
My Dad loved all things new. My parents business had a computer when they were brand new and one computer filled an entire room. I have written about the night he disappeared and came back with a color TV and how he sent in for every new item offered as a marketing tool.
So when I read in my daily SKIMM the word fleek, I thought of my Dad. I had not heard or read this word being used. So I went to Urban Dictionary. What was really funny was the example used in applying the word. The definition is 1. On point 2. Very good 3. Perfect. The example given was: Zayn is on fleek due to his ability to appear perfect at all times. The funny thing is that you have to know who or what a Zayn is . . . Zayn Malik, singer formerly of One Direction.
Now you too know something NEW for the New Year!
II. Ask Leslie - Stay On Your Cutting Edge
The Golden Globes and all of the award shows can teach us lessons in how to present effectively and lessons in what to avoid in order to present effectively!
One Lesson from the 2016 Golden Globes:
1. Take Advantage of Defining Moments. Denzel received a life time achievement award. First he couldn't find his notes and then he couldn't read them without his glasses. It would not have been a big deal if he just would have talked to us the audience, from his heart. He needed to give us the Denzel we think we know and love. The moment came and passed. He needed to step up in that moment. He didn't. Don't let those moments go by without the appropriate response. The moment may not come again.
For all six lessons, you can visit my blog at http://www.leadersneedtospeak.com/six-lessons-learned-from-the-golden-globes/
Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or at the office at 330-668-6569 for more information or to sign up.
III. Mishmash of Value
1. A Toast Needs a Ghost
A TOAST by any other name is still a speech. Therefore it must follow the same rules as any other speech. Which means a Wedding Toast shall not bore the audience, shall not ramble, and shall not embarrass. What a Wedding Toast should do is be authentic, well thought out, and short. These qualities are not easy when talking about someone you love. Or perhaps just not easy when giving a TOAST that one did not prepare to give, did not practice out loud, and did not time in advance.
Like the cavalry, help is on the way. WE CAN WRITE YOUR TOAST!! "Even though" a TOAST is supposed to be heartfelt does not mean that it and you can't benefit from outside help or be ghostwritten. Your guests, your family and most importantly the bride or groom will benefit from a thoughtful TOAST rather than what often becomes a roast. Let me help you with your next wedding toast whether you are the father or mother or best man or maid of honor.
2. Think You Are Boxed In?
I pulled up to the gas station for my 79 cent cup of coffee. A gas truck was blocking my usual "pull up place." I pulled in in front of another car. The car had more than ample room to back up and go around me. If I had pulled up in back of the car, I would have blocked the driver in with no place to go.
The cashier told me I blocked in this woman's car. I was shocked when I asked, "doesn't she have a reverse?" I guess she had gone in and complained. When I came out to my car she must have discovered her ability to go in reverse as she was backing up just fine. This scenario made me think, how often do we not see an alternate exit strategy?
3. Why Don't We Ask for Help?
I am continually surprised when a client does not ask me for help. Here I am their "coach" and an important speech or media opportunity comes and goes without telling me or asking for my help. So I went to my Holy Grail, Google, for an answer. "Why don't people ask for help?" I found several answers: "I don't want to be a burden." "If I ask for help, it's being selfish." "I'm not that important." "I feel they have better things to do than to help me." "I don't want to be perceived as 'failing."
I guess there isn't one singular reason why people don't ask for help. Perhaps all we can do is offer. Offer our help and be non-judgmental whether or not it is accepted. When is the last time you asked, can I do anything to help?
4. We Look at Things Upside Down
Each year, we have a theme that serves as an umbrella to the events we sponsor throughout the year. This year the theme is a sentence that I find myself saying often to clients in my coaching room: here at Electric Impulse we look at things upside down. You received a disappointing 360, YEAH! All feedback is gold so even a disappointing 360 is gold. You handled a challenge at work in a less than stellar way? GREAT. It is an opportunity to identify what you want to eliminate or decrease in the future.
One benefit to any external source is the different view. Not all mirrors give the same image. A regular mirror and a 10X mirror tell a different story. There is not one truth. You have no experience? I would turn that upside down and make your lack of preconceptions an advantage. You are an older candidate for a job? I would turn that upside down to help you communicate how level headed and dependable you are. To turn your value right side up, you have to look at things upside down.
5. Never Dim Your Own Light
Last year, an incoming organization president wowed the audience in her installation speech. WOWed 'em. Wowing audiences is not easy even when you are talented. You still need to write and edit and edit and write the speech. You still need to practice and practice in the venue and edit. The incoming president did all of these things. A year later in her out-going speech she did little of the above. Her reasoning is that she did not want to outshine the incoming president.
The answer to any communication challenge is never to make yourself smaller. To make yourself less than what you are or what you can be to an audience is a disservice to you the speaker, the audience and also to any other speaker on the dais. Your job is to protect your value. If you give up that job to protect someone else, who is protecting your value?
IV. Live and In Person
Live: Come and Join Us
I'm speaking for the following groups and professions in the next month. I would love to speak to one of your groups!
February 18 Cleveland Design Center - You Are Your Own Best Solution
Forum 360 with Leslie as Moderator
Upcoming Show: Non-Traditional Media
Guests: Chris Horne, Akron Devil Stri
Upcoming Show: From Harvard to the Hill
Guests: Jasmine Wyatt, U.S. Senate Staff
Each Forum 360 will be seen on PBS Fusion Channels 45 & 49. If you have Time Warner, the channel is 993. Forum 360 will be seen on Mondays at 8 pm and Saturdays at 5:30 pm.
WONE FM 97.5 Sunday 6:00 am. For online streaming go to http://wone.net/ and click Listen Live.
WAKR AM 1590 Sunday, 5:00 pm, Monday 12:30 am. For online streaming go to http://akronnewsnow.com/ and click Listen Live.
**Past shows can be seen my Website.**
V. Lessons from CoachSpeak
The Road to The White House is important to all of us for the lessons we can learn and apply in our professional lives. Two of the GOP candidates on the main stage, the 9 pm hour, for at least five of the six GOP debates, were relegated to the 6 pm not-ready or prime-time debate.
Rand Paul and Carly Fiorina did not muster the minimum approval rating. Each responded differently. Rand Paul chose to not attend the earlier debate. He chose to be campaigning in other states. Carly Fiorina chose to be relegated.
Lesson Learned: We always have options. FYI Paul's ditching the debate has resulted in larger crowds at his rallies.
VI. Come and Be a Part of Our Community
In 2016 we will host 16 events! Come and participate in one of our experiences: some are an hour and some are all day. All of them will help you look at things upside down so you can turn your value right side up!
Join us on Tuesday February 11 for a Valentine's deep plunge into how to apply the technology and tools we have available for us when we have the opportunity to speak or present. It's one thing for experts to identify new technology but HOW do we as mere mortals benefit from cutting edge availability? You will benefit greatly from this session when you are open to everything and attached to nothing!
In this Boot Camp bring your laptop. We will show you how to stand out and then you will apply what you learned to your own presentation. Then we will show you a little more, and you will apply what you learned. You need to be ready for the next presentation that is going to come your way. The more ready you are, the more stellar you will be seen.
Ask me about my 10 in 10! In 2016 we wipe the slate clean and start a new list topped out at 10.
At Electric Impulse We Look at Things Upside Down. . .
To Turn Your Value Right Side Up!
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