Electric Impulse Communications, Inc. Newsletter
A monthly newsletter to transform ordinary leaders to extraordinary: in your company, profession, and industry. Based on coaching, writing, speaking and strategizing by Leslie G.Ungar to give people their own voice, help them identify their competitive edge, and change the world one leader a time. www.electricimpulse.com
This newsletter includes: The Power of Perspectives
- Herbie's Helpful Hint
- ASK LESLIE - Stay On Your Cutting Edge
- Mishmash of Value:
- Live and In Person
- Lessons from Best Friends
- Come and Be a Part of Our Community
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I. Herbie's Helpful Hint
Sad farewell to Joan Rivers. First she made the news recently from a routine visit to a doctor's office. She was put into a medically induced coma, as was my dad. My dad had a DNR - do not resuscitate - on his medical chart as I understand Joan Rivers had also. The challenge is to try to ascertain when your loved one has a chance to get better and when they don't.
Lesson Learned: Medical technology and its advancements are amazing. It doesn't change the fact that at some point a human has to make life and death decisions about which they are ill-prepared. I know in our case (and in Melissa Rivers case) we tried to honor my dad's wishes while at the same time giving him every last opportunity to come out of the coma and lead a quality life. Best wishes to anyone who has to navigate this journey. A final shout out to Joan for writing her own funeral requirements: buried in a Valentino dress, Meryl Streep cry in 5 accents, and her hair blow like Beyonce.
II. Ask Leslie - Brand New Video "CoachSpeak"
On the sidelines or on the bench a coach does not have much time to communicate with players. So the language needs to be brief and to the point in a way that will be immediately understood. I call this CoachSpeak. This concise form of communication has a value in every work place. Click here to watch in 2:25 how to get the results of a winning coach.
III. Mishmash of Value
1. Wordsmith or Thinksmith
I recently met a school principal at my Barre class. When I told her what I did, she said "you are a wordsmith". I thought about that. Yes I do write speeches and Yes I do suggest verbal ways that a client can communicate more effectively. But after thinking about it, I am not in any way a wordsmith. I would rather say I was a thinksmith, someone to think with rather than someone to craft only the words.
There are actually two lessons learned from this brief encounter. Although I was close to an English major in college, I would not say my grammar would qualify me for the title wordsmith. I still get confused by "lay" and "lie". But the bigger lesson is that as a Communication Coach I am more focused on the mindset behind the words than the actual words. You can find the correct word much easier than you can find the most effective mindset. It's mindset first, and then the words.
2. Technology Gets Better and Manners Get Worse
We have more ways to communicate than ever before in the history of the world. Period. We can call, email, text, or leave voice mail and yet so many are worse than ever before in the history of mankind in follow up or just simply getting back to someone with a YES or a NO. In all cases MAYBE is worse than a NO. No answer can be perceived as a MAYBE. MAYBE's are destructive, they zap good will and our time.
When did it become OK to not reply to someone? When did it become OK for seemingly successful people to just not answer? The goal is always to move something forward. To stand out in your field or profession or company, respond quickly and with clarity.
3. "Tragic Tony Stewart"
One observation I hear consistently from clients, "I didn't realize how hard this communication stuff is." Communication is hard work, there is no substitute. Whether you are preparing to lead a team or a meeting, giving a presentation in a ballroom or a board meeting, communication is hard work.
When Tony Stewart resurfaced three weeks later, he was a far cry from the brash driver the racing world and the public know as "Smoke". Self-proclaimed heartbroken but ready to heal, he rejoined his race track family of crew and competitors. In the press conference, he referenced Kevin Ward's family. But it was his timid, halting delivery that presented a much different side of the racer known for his temper and tantrums. His decision to "bleed" alittle in front of the cameras, to talk about sadness and pain, will allow him to get on with his career and not look like the non-caring villain, regardless of his innocence or guilt. Are you willing to be vulnerable in front of your audience?
4. A Tale of Two Barres
Barre spelled with 2 r's is not the drinking location but rather a workout class using a ballet barre. It is a combination of ballet, Pilates, yoga, and torture. There are two barre studios within a few miles of each other. In Hudson there are two studios within a few blocks of each other. As in life, the individual instructors influence greatly how much you like a class. Bigger than that is how different these two studios are in their "culture", energy and format.
If you are like most businesses, you think you have competition. If you look at these two barre studios, they attract different clientele, people who are a good match for their culture. When Earth Fare moved into Montrose, within a year or so Mustard Seed was thriving from the additional organic shoppers coming to the area. Do you know what your culture is and who the best fit for that culture?
5. Six Things You Need to Know to be Great in Business
Recently Mark Cuban gave his six tips to be successful in business. I was asked to contribute my thoughts on what six things make you great in business today. Click here to read them.
When I was asked to contribute my thoughts, my original thought was one more thing to do. And it had a deadline of 24 hours. So I was going to put it on my to-do list that I knew would never get done. Then I decided to do what I would advise a client to do, use my best friend the timer. I gave myself three minutes to get it done. Make friends with the fact that more time does not make your project better.
IV. Live and On TV
Live: Come and Join Us
September 13 Hudson Job Search Retreat October 16 Sixth District Compact October 17 Executive Networking Keynote
Forum 360 with Leslie as Moderator
Coaching 5 Decades and 2 Generations.
Guest: Coach Jim Dennison
**Past shows can be seen my Website.**
V. Lessons from Best Friends
Best Friends is situated on 77,000 acres in Kanab, Utah. It is divided by animal into Dog town, Horse Haven, etc. There were the experiences I knew to look forward to such as working with goats, and the things I did not expect to learn or experience.Lesson: is your end goal to be popular or effective? Dog town is divided into puppies, training, older dogs in Old Friends, small dogs, big dogs, and dogs of different colored collars. There were 260 dogs when I was there. Only one has his own Facebook page. His name is Ogy and I was lucky enough to walk him. He is an older Pit Bull. Everyone loves Ogy and yet no one has adopted him. He is not good with other dogs. I guess most people want a dog they can take to the dog park or just out in public. I found it interesting that you can be popular, the most popular, but it doesn't mean you will find your forever home. Or in our 2-legged life being popular does not mean you will get the sale or as we have heard, the most beautiful girl often sits home alone on Saturday night.
VI. Come and Be a Part of Our Community
We are always hosting some kind of event you can participate in for an hour or a day, in person or by phone
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September 19 - HorseTalk: Lessons in Leadership
A horse is the best mirror of your communication and leadership skills that you will ever have the opportunity to see your reflection. Join a unique group of people- no riding or horse experience necessary or even helpful.
October 2 - Video and You Happy Hour
Join us and see how other people see you. You will have the ability to learn by both doing and observing. Eat, meet and greet at the happy hour of 5 o'clock.
October 30 - Master Class: Leverage Your Opportunity
The process is simple: total immersion in one 4-hour class. The goal is attainable: catapult 2 or 3 levels of excellence to a place of expertise you did not know you could get to so fast.
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